The Anxious Therapist

I admire many people in my life for countless reasons. But I’ve grown to respect and admire the people in my life who have taught me that selflessness is the most respectable attribute one could ever possibly possess; yet, it is the hardest attribute to come by and more importantly, the hardest quality one could personally own. You can never really understand a person and be thankful for their worth until you’re unbelievably certain of your own worth.

Follow your passions. “It’s not what you do, but how much love you put into it that matters.” Seek out those who inspire, encourage, and motivate you. Be wary of “guidance” by persuasion and dissuasion… those are just subtle forms of manipulation. 99% of people want to see you do well and succeed.

Always remember: “Failure isn’t final, judgment has a point, and consequences are for correction.” As much as you pursue those who inspire you, become an inspiration for those in your life. It becomes so easy to say one thing and do another. “And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people the permission to do the same.” Lead by example.

As human beings, we want to believe that we play a large role in our own existence. But if I’ve learned only one thing from my personal experiences, it’s that we have little control over the predicaments we often find ourselves in. If we seriously contemplated how much our actions effected other people, we’d probably reconsider a noticeable amount. It seems contrary to much of what many of us were taught, but it’s when you really start to believe it that fate finds its way into your life and shows you that you’re not entirely in control of your own destiny.

“Let love be your greatest aim.” I found love at a young age and I find love today. I find happiness because I look for it and not because it’s given to me. I seek advice from those I trust and not from those I sense may misguide my well-being with their ill intentions. I cry more than I used to and I talk less than I ever have. I look deeper into people’s actions and I listen more closely to their words. It’s almost impossible to become who you’re meant to be without hurt, pain, laughter, and the help of the ones who love you and want to see you succeed in life.

Funny thing, this so-called life… the second you think you’ve got it all figured out, you figure out you don’t.

When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And when you want to smile but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint on the clouds of doubt,
And you can never tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems afar.
So, stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit
It’s when things go wrong that you mustn’t quit.

-Unknown