Don’t Worry…

“Don’t make a permanent decision for your temporary emotion.” People don’t make mistakes, they make decisions and choices. When someone makes a bad decision or the “wrong” choice, they like to mask the ugliness with a more delicate term. If it walks like a duck and it quacks like a duck…

Own your bad decisions.

Failure isn’t fatal or final, and failing at something doesn’t make you a failure.

The toughest advice to follow is your own. It’s so much easier to preach than it is to practice. So lead by example because talk is cheap. “Words may show a man’s wit, but his actions show his meaning.” And what you say about others definitely shows more of your character than the person you’re speaking of.

“Happiness is a direction, not a destination.” You can choose any emotion you want. “Happiness depends upon ourselves.” Let yourself be happy. Choose happiness. Smile. Letting others dictate your emotions is giving other people the power to control you. And blaming others for how you feel is giving them entirely too much credit; it’s a cop-out on your part and it’s completely discrediting any sort of control and power you have over yourself and your emotions.

There is nothing wrong with being your own toughest critic… so long as you remain your OWN toughest critic. “If you’re doing your best, you won’t have any time to worry about failure.” Perfection, by anyone’s standards BUT YOUR OWN, is unattainable, but (thankfully) it’s subjective. So, create- and stick to!- your own kind of perfect. “Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.”

Smile. And choose happiness.

2 thoughts on “Don’t Worry…

  1. The problem is that people do not own their mistakes. It hurts to be the one to do the wrong, it sucks to the one holding the ball. No one wants to be that. But I find that’s where maturity comes into play. So many people do not want to grow up, or believe they are being adult, but do not command behavior expected of such a person.

    I think the true problem is that people look to the others to be their source of happiness. Instead of being happy who they are, with what they have, they think they will some how be better, more likable if they are someone they are not or possess qualities that are not truly their own.

    We don’t conceive our own ideas of what makes us happy but we allow others to define for us what SHOULD make us happy. The problem with that is that they are not happy themselves. Happiness is subjective, and people are followers. They don’t want to be standing on that limb alone. We achieve unhappiness when we look to others for our standards of happiness. By thinking the prettiest girl in class has such a good life, we should aspire to be like her and have what she has. You could very well be addicted to coke or have an abusive boyfriend. We need to place more importance on developing our own definition of what makes us happiness and not allow what others have to become the yard stick against which we measure our own happiness.

    As our society is finding, that yard stick keeps getting longer and longer and it’s harder and harder to keep up with. It’s hard to keep up with a lie, but a truth just is.

    But I once heard, “a lone person built the ark and a group of professionals built the titanic”. Be ok with standing alone and, as so well put in Sex And the City “Why is it that we’re willing to write our own vows but not our own rules?”

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